“7 Habits of Highly Effective People” is one of the most well-received self-improvement books. This review will tell you why or not to read this book.
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It may not be a good idea to wait until you’ve read “7 Habits of Highly Effective People.”
It is my experience that you shouldn’t be able to or should not read it until you are ready. Let me tell you why:
It was 1993 when I turned 20. It would not have been worth my time if I had read it at 19 years old. It was, to be truthful, an answer to all my prayers when I read it.
These concepts are so powerful that I was able to change my life by just reading them, even though I didn’t consciously put them into practice.
I found myself constantly comparing my life with what I was reading. I would feel angry if someone insulted me. But then, something would follow that thought. I would think, “Hey! This reminds me of the time Covey wrote about ________. The unfavorable situation was already over by the time Covey had finished writing about it.
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It was a lot more fun to think!
The first three Habits alone were enough to make me feel excited about social interaction. Anyone in 1000 years could develop these concepts.
My favorite habit was the fourth. It is called “Seek first to understand, then to be understood”. Now that I am married, I wish I had done this more, helping me be a good speaker back in those days. I was able to talk to people and not make them “drown for mental air”. People want to feel understood. Arguments that are constantly made will not make anyone feel understood. Ideas can be more challenging to put into practice if they continue to be argued. EVERY IDIOT CAN ARGUE The entire world seems to value debate…and is capable of destroying other people’s points with logic and wit.
However, that is not strength. As I said, any idiot can argue. Only 1 in 1000 people can genuinely consider the opinion of another person to be right. A smaller percentage can stop and think: “I am 100% right, and the other person is wrong. Perhaps I’m wrong. But who knows?” Let me listen to their points and consider what they have to say.
That is the real strength.
This idea was once shared with an opinionated person. They began to yell at me, saying that I was wrong and that I must stand up for myself and prove them wrong. I smiled and replied, “Maybe you are right”. LOL! They didn’t even notice that I was advocating the same thing they were doing.
It is incredible to see what people do when they are asked what their point is. Many of your sentences will start with “…so what you’re actually saying is ….”. When you begin to tell the person that you aren’t there to argue, their backs drop; their urgency drops, and they calm down. Then they will listen to you without fighting.
Covey says that the best way for others to be influenced is to be INFLUED.
This book is great and has many principles that will be helpful in all aspects of your life. However, I believe you must be in a position actually to put them into practice. You will find it helpful if you are able to put it into practice every day in such a place as:
A family member who is dealing with difficult situations
Anyone who has to deal with people every day. This book is for you if you have a strong desire to learn how to better deal with others.